The Rules For Booty Calls & “Friends with Benefits”

I’ll admit it: I don’t get how booty calls / “friends with benefits” situations work. I’ve only had two or three in my life (and one or two of them eventually turned into someone wanting more). Can someone enlighten me? (Especially if the person that you’re hooking up with is an acquaintance or a friend…it can get a lil complicated. Communities, even big cities, are small – and people like to talk.)

For example:

1) If a guy is interested in sleeping with a girl, does it ever become more serious over time? Or does it always remain just physical? (Obviously all guys are different but it’s interesting to note trends)

2) If you’re hooking up with someone, what kinds of interactions are inappropriate or off limits to the situation? Such as, do you not do date-like things (like dinner)? Do you not do activities outside of the bedroom as you’d do with friends?

3)If you’re in public, do you not act flirty towards one another (even if you used to before), especially if other people are around that you both know? Can you flirt and talk to other people that you may (or may not) be interested in in front of your booty call/FWB, or would that be considered rude (or are people free to do whatever they feel like because there’s no commitment)?

4) If you just want a hook up, what’s an appropriate frequency of seeing one another? Every other week? Every week? Once in a while? Or do things become too consistent (dating-like)?

4.5) Can booty calls/FWB exist over extended periods of time, or is it better for them to just last a few months at the most (before things possibly become more complicated?)

5) Do hook ups ever talk to each other or text? Or is that too much of an emotional commitment (even if it’s just due to the fact that y’all are friends)?

6) Are there any other protocol about booty calls/FWB’s? Such as no sleeping over, no meals, no telling nobody about yo business…Or YES to anything (besides disclosing sexual history, intentions, and whether or not they’re sleeping with other people?)

This is all new to me. The one thing I’ve learned about men since becoming single: Men are about actions over words. Talk is cheap, but actions speak volumes…about how they feel about you.

Perhaps this is a partial list of rules:

BootyCallAgreement

Edit:

I just found this GREAT “article” by Glamour (of course) that answered most of my questions! Thank you women’s magazines…

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2012/10/10-rules-of-being-friends-with-benefits#slide=1

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3 thoughts on “The Rules For Booty Calls & “Friends with Benefits”

  1. Ive had a FWB situation for about 4 months now. We both know it cant be anything more due to certain circumstances. but we enjoy each others company and like the conversation (plus the sex is great). We dont want to date people but still continue to get our weekly time in together.

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